I fly my Southern flag because I am surrounded by Yankee ideals and it is my little form of counter-measure. Are most of the people around NoVa true Yankees? Seeing the mix around here I would say that it is 45% Yankee, 50% foreigners and 5% “others”. I am an other. With my Southern heritage came politeness and respect. Don’t get me wrong: when you get ignorant on me I will be the first to go toe-to-toe with you. For the most part my manners drive my daily life. I have watched this area degrade in manners for decades and, being a realist, I have found it to be a lost cause with just a dash of hope; diminishing but hope none the less. Let me explain some of the things I (and others) are having to endure:
My company has been around for over a century. During my tenure I have watched some real lunacy in the drivers of this company. After the last merger all sensibility went out the door. The catch phrase about “customers being our priority” translates to the lame dollar (it use to be almighty but that changed with hope is this government-another topic) and how to satisfy stockholders so the upper echelon can get their bonuses. No one is paying attention to the long term because “today” is all that matters. Trying to do business without the costs or, to put it in reality speak, working in a house of cards. This will not sustain and the only reason it is this way is “self”.
Pork is rampant in the lame duck government bills/laws/agreements/etc. going out the door. I need not explain as we all keep good track of these things. Bottom line cause? Self. The guy who won’t look for work because he/she has endless unemployment. Don’t ask or tell because homosexuals are wanting something for themselves. Salt treaty? It ain’t for us but someone else.
I wrote the BOS of Loudoun on an issue with the decorations at the courthouse and asked for a reply. I guess their businesses or personal lives are more important then the courtesy of a reply. Just thinking of themselves as usual.
Driving around during this Christmas season is what really drives home my thought of self. People have always been in a bigger hurry and are more important than me. That is why there is no driving etiquette. Call somewhere and get a recording where “your call is important” and then wait for someone to answer or even call you back. Usually doesn’t happen. Go to the store and get pushed around without an excuse me. Have someone cut in line in front of you. Hold the door for someone and not get a word of thanks. This is all self. Yes, it is also rude but self means that you expect it and it should be “given” you. I don’t think so.
Self is responsibility in its true form. Be responsible for yourself and do for yourself if you want it done at all. Manners kicks in when it is done for you and you are thankful for it. Selfless is when you want to help others or care more for others at times instead of yourself. Pointing bad manners out to people at the time they are only thinking of self is both tasteless and useless. They just don’t get it. In this area and elsewhere, people are getting use to having things given or done for them and it becomes expected. In this time of love, joy and peace I thought it would be different but nope. We are steadily promoting “everyone for himself” and there are so many people that will suffer because of it. Our regression will be our doom.