Don’t look around the room at others because you need to be looking at yourselves.  Everyone will say they are doing their best, their kids are being treated with respect and they are taught right from wrong.  By what definition of “right and wrong”?  Child rearing isn’t about being “fair” but it is about instilling a foundation of moral code and responsibilities so that those children can build upon that foundation as adults when they get “kicked out of the nest”, which is the natural order of things.

We have the bullies on the bus intimidating a women, who show no respect for authority or an adult, cussing and demeaning the whole time.  We have teachers berating kids for political purpose and bias.  Teachers “indoctrinating” children not by text but by personal beliefs.  You have the shooting of a police officer at a Denver family jazz fest.  Protesters living like animals, destroying public and private properties, to get their fair share of “free” from others.  Kids running free, video taping their escapades of shooting people with paintballs and BB guns as they drive down the road.  Or of cold cocking an unsuspecting elderly person just for fun.  These animal children belong to someone but you will tell me they aren’t your children and your children don’t do those things.  Maybe they don’t do them YET but what teachings have they been given that you think will curtail activites like stated above?

We have lost the right of discipline, we can’t hurt feelings or be competitive.  We must allow children to learn their own lessons (per one parent).  The SCOTUS just made a ruling that kids who murder can no longer be given life in prison because it is considered cruel and unusual punishment.  So what have those children learned from this?  What would happen if the parents had to do the time for the child’s crime?  I personally think that more children would be more likely to screwup since the consequences fall somewhere else.  This would be a real indicator to show how much your children love and respect you, and how good a parent you thought you were.

I ironhanded my kids.  They got away with absolutely nothing.  This was a tradition passed down by my parents and the old ways.  It works just fine and here is how I know.  Their mother couldn’t discipline (leaving the job solely to me) and she would try to buy the kids favor with kindness, gifts, excursions, dropping punishments, etc.  I was the bad guy and the kids would play the sides to get what they wanted.  Homey don’t like or play that game!  The kids are on their own and they look to me for help, knowledge and just good conversation.  Their mother gives them grief about putting me “on a pedestal” when it was she that gave them everything they wanted.  This tells me 2 things: I did my job and instilled a good foundation for them to build upon, and kids WANT and need constraints.

I’m sure you think your kids will be fine.  I’m sure you think that you are a good parent.  I’m sure you think these terrible instances happen because of location or money problems or bad schools or ignorance or……..  All I can say is maybe, just maybe, people need to re-evaluate what they are doing and fight to bring back what parents are losing as tools in raising children.  You can let them become wards of the government or even wards of the state (prison) but in doing so, someone becomes a victim of those crimes. Yes, the fault may be the individuals directly but they had to learn things from somewhere.